All moved into the new place now! I am so glad that I listened when my partner (aka, Lilo’s other favorite person) suggested I might want to move before the long weekend instead of after. Saturday and Sunday were intense, but right now — mid-morning Monday — all is peaceful.
I mean, there are still boxes to unpack and things — so many things! — to sort and at some point this week I’ll regret not having done laundry over the weekend. (No washer/dryer at the new place yet.)
But I have cooked. Taken a bubble bath. Read a book. Done only a very little exploring because it has been negative billion degrees (not actually an exaggeration), but I’ve scoped out the closet rail trail access and that’s on the docket for later today after meeting Amanda for lunch. I am content. I think we’re going to be happy here.
Lilo was a tougher sell. She’s more comfortable more quickly in new places than she was a few years ago, but she still, at the end of the day, really wants to be at home. So it’s hard for her when “home” is suddenly somewhere new.
I’ve gotten some practice in this unsettled stretch in figuring out how to help her along. Moving her mat doesn’t do it; she’s used to that traveling to temporary places and while it gives her structure, it doesn’t seem to signal “home.” Moving her favorite blanket, though — an afghan that Amanda made and gave me not too long before Lilo came into my life? That’s a big deal. She doesn’t seem to care about it under normal circumstances, but when stressed or not feeling well, snuggling with her afghan is alllll that Lilo wants to do.
I also think that letting her see the old place empty was useful. She went back with me on Sunday to clean it — she is pretty sure that we live in the car now — and her confusion was obvious, much like when we showed up at the new house on Saturday and magically all our things were here. But when we got back home again — maybe I am anthropomorphizing? But she seemed to understand.
How do you help your critters feel at home in a new space?